I feel like the phrase “One day at a time,” is often said when someone feels gloomy and overwhelmed by life or a situation that they are dealing with. I struggle with this phrase because it could really mean so many things. I say this when I feel like I have too many things to do and I know I am not able to keep up. My friend says this when she is struggling with depression. How do we know when someone really is taking things one day at a time or is this a statement to cause concern.

As most of you know, I believe people need people. I feel if someone is saying “One day at a time,” it is important to not just nod your head in agreement but to examine the intent of the person a little bit closer. In todays world where it seems like bad things are always happening and you less and less of happy stories with happy endings, it is important to pay attention. Be ready to help someone who is struggling. I don’t know how to always approach someone about their feelings, especially if they are dark feelings of sadness or grief. I do know that it doesn’t always take much to lift someone’s spirits. A cup of coffee, a listening ear, a encouraging word, buying someone groceries if they need them, giving someone a ride when their car is broke down, a gift card , it doesn’t have to be much.

I worked at a homeless shelter for several years and some of the residents that I encountered there were some of the most selfless people I ever met. These are people that are out in the freezing cold and starving, not a dime to their name and worried about the other residents needs. Are you like them? If someone brings a box of donuts to your office, are you in a rush to get to the first donut so you get the best one? I didn’t witness this very often at all. I think humanity could do better and be mindful of others. Not to mention that it feels good to put other people first.

If you are struggling and feeling as though you can only do life “one day at a time,” I encourage you to talk to someone that will be understanding and love you without an judgement. I think everyone feels this way often. Just remember that what seems insignificant to one person may be very triggering and a big deal for another. People have trauma and hurt that they have to process through. I am happy to talk to anyone who is really struggling. Send me a email and I will respond. Chins up buttercups! God loves you and you are amazing!